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7 February 18

I’ve changed my mind about choices.

I used to think that I was 100% in charge of my own destiny. In fact I prided myself on my ability to seek out new opportunities, capitalise on my hard-won skills and forge a career for myself. The move from I.T. into personal development was a particularly smart one. It was a path I chose because I intuitively knew it would be good for me financially and, more importantly, emotionally and spiritually. My intuition was entirely correct and I have never been happier in my professional life. I made mention of the fact in last week’s blog on ‘needs’ that there is no finer way to make your living than by helping people, because each time you do so you help yourself a little bit too. It’s an understanding I worked hard for many years to reach.

But in fact I wasn’t doing any of it.

I now realise that my ‘self’ is purely a construct, an illusion created in hindsight from nothing but thought. All along that journey to self-discovery it was Mind that was guiding me, every step of the way, so as much as I am in awe of the whole process I can hardly take credit for it. That strong sense of pride I used to feel was only ego, only thought. It has been replaced by gratitude, and when I coach my clients now I am simply trying to wake them up to the fact that their lives are being guided in exactly the same way, whether they realise it consciously or not.

I have two young daughters so for a man in his early fifties I’m quite familiar with fairy tales, genies, princesses living in castles kissing frogs and all the rest. There is naturally a magical element in those stories we’ve all grown up with. The magic is a constant acknowledgement and reminder of the truth of our experience as spiritual beings in human form. But I’ve come to realise that many of these stories have some pretty fundamental limitations built into them.

Take the classic story of the genie released from captivity in his bottle or lamp and granting Aladdin or whoever three wishes. The story has a sting in its tale, usually ending up when the inevitable self-interest of the one doing the wishing is exposed and punished. I’m no expert but I think somewhere along the way a story intended to point us towards the magnificent abundance of life got turned into a moral lesson about the dangers of selfishness and greed. Here’s my re-telling of the genie story: Aladdin is walking along a beach when he finds a strange-looking bottle washed up on the shore. When he rubs it to remove a couple of barnacles the cork springs open and out jumps a magical genie.

“I am a magical genie. I have been trapped inside this bottle for an eternity. You have released me. I must now grant you three wishes.”

Aladdin, being well acquainted with the Three Principles guiding his life is a bit underwhelmed. He scoffs.

“Only three? Surely you can do better than that!? Besides, I know what you’re up to. You’re testing me to see whether I’m going to ask for riches. Well I’m not going to because Mind has my back and I have all the riches I could ever need.”

The genie is impressed and they walk off together down the beach, talking about philosophy and the nature of our experience. The end.

Okay it’s maybe not as exciting as the original, and I don’t think my daughters would approve if I rolled it out for their bedtime story, but at this stage of my life it just seems more relevant to me.

All through my personal ‘journey’ – if I can call it that – all I ever needed was to get out of my own way, to realise that in life there are multiple choices, many doors opening for us all the time, even if we sometimes can’t see them for the fog of our own thinking.

Too many of us are living in a fantasy where there are only two or three choices open to us in the wish department, and no genie on hand to grant them anyway. I felt that way once, but I won’t live in that fantasy anymore.

I’ve changed my mind about choices.

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  • Having attended David's course and then had some one to one sessions with him my approach to my life has changed dramatically and improved. David has a very gentle and empathic way about him, yet managed to challenge my habitual way of being and thinking. As a result of our time together I now practice his "way of being" and I truly find that I am getting far better results in all of the relationships that I encounter. My inner chatter is under control, most of the time, and I am learning to pause and push away harmful thinking . It's surprising how habitual thinking can do so much damage and how, once you really focus on what comes into your mind you start to realise that you can be bigger than your random thoughts. So David thank you for putting me on a better pathway. Looking forward to sharing another journey with the Auspicium family!
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  • I first met David at an evening business club a couple of years ago. During his presentation something “clicked” with me and I felt compelled to further my understanding of NLP. I attended the Auspicium free trial day. My earlier feelings were confirmed. This guy knows what he’s talking about and has a passion for helping people. I duly signed up for the NLP and Hypnotherapy practitioner course. What a week. All in the class left in such high spirits with a very different outlook on life. Following on I have attended the NLP and Hypnotherapy Master Practitioner course. Again excellent. There was something about the Hypnotherapy element of the course that I loved so on to the Hypnotherapy Trainers Training (another absolutely brilliant week). All the courses that I have attended have been very well organised, have a great team of trainers and support volunteers. The documentation is well put together and the exercises are all structured to push yourself to show you have a grasp of the given subject. I now have a fantastic group of new friends who I have a deep link with. We still meet up when we can to catch up on what we are all doing. As of March this year I have been participating in the Auspicium Freedom Project. This is a yearlong “conversation” about the 3 Principles – Mind, Thought and Consciousness. It took me a while to “get” it but now just by “doing nothing” I find myself doing more with better results and no stress. There are no models or techniques to learn. We all have the Principles inside us. We just need to be woken up to how to use them. It’s a great journey that will take the rest of my life. David is a superb trainer and fully deserves all the praise he receives.
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