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The KEY Questions: What is ‘transformation’?

9 September 17

I got an urge to give my first ever mentor Paul a call, just to say hi. Paul was the man who selflessly took me under his wing about ten years ago when I had only just encountered NLP and was eager to learn more. He was, (and still is, now in his seventies), a hugely successful life coach, but so much more than that. Pretty much all you need to know about Paul is that when he suggested I join him on one of his extensive NLP coaching sessions, and I confessed that I would love to but couldn’t afford it, his response was “Who’s asking you for money? Just come along.”

I dialled the number and he answered immediately. “Hello? Who’s this?” … “David.” Silence at the other end of the line … “David who?” … “David Key”.

He was very pleased. “David!” he said, “You’ve transformed!!”

We both laughed because I knew what he meant. He hadn’t recognised my voice, which had probably dropped a couple of octaves in pitch from the last time we had spoken. It was no longer the nervy, uptight squeak of – to quote Paul’s brutally honest but a bit less than generous description – ‘an anxious schoolboy desperately wanting a pat on the back’. I couldn’t take offense. I remember that person, pushing, pushing, pushing forward to try to get to a better place without really knowing what that place would look like if and when he ever got there. It’s true that I have come a long way since then, and it was Paul who set me off on my journey of self-discovery. I will always be grateful to him for that.

But here’s my question: is it true? Am I ‘transformed’, and what does that mean?

Like most of us I’m concerned about things that are happening in the world, the crimes that we see perpetrated against innocent men, women and children in the name of some hate-fuelled ideology or warped belief system. From time to time, when my mood is low, that concern spills over into anger. I know, at that point, that my thinking is off track, but it seems so real to me, and the one thought that’s most persistent in my mind is this:

   “I am not like THEM!”

   Each and every one of us is possessed of innate wisdom. No one is separate from Mind, so the distinction I make between ‘them’ and me is, quite simply, an illusion. But why is it so hard for me to accept that sometimes? Should I start again, go back to my mentors and confess that I haven’t yet understood the Principles? Could it be, after all this time, that I’m still that anxious schoolboy underneath, and it’s only my voice that’s changed?

I take a swig from my coffee cup and have another thought. It isn’t just other people that are part of Universal Mind, and it isn’t just living things like trees and grass. This cup, along with its contents, is a part of Mind too. How do I know? Think of all the matter in outer space, all of it, stretching to infinity. Clouds of gas, millions of light years across, slowly come together under the force of gravity to form planets, moons, suns and galaxies. But nowhere in this vast universe can gravity alone bring matter together to form my coffee cup. Mind did that, and Mind is what unites us all, whether we know it or not, and whether we like it or not.

So here’s my insight: it can be very hard to see the illusory nature of our thinking, but it’s only my ego that tries to convince me that ‘I’m not like those people that I don’t like’. It’s my ego that encourages me to set myself apart and judge others. Those judgements are passing thoughts and I do not have to give them any weight, I don’t need to act on them. After all it was giving significance to what were just thoughts that persuaded those otherwise happy, smiling children to grow up to be brutal killers capable of carrying out heinous crimes.

I can’t know if I’m ‘transformed’ or not, but I know, without any doubt, that the Principles represent the truth of our experience of being alive. I may only have caught a glimpse of that deep spiritual truth that Syd Banks describes, but it has been enough for me, and my work is about bringing this understanding to as many people as I can.

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  • Having attended David's course and then had some one to one sessions with him my approach to my life has changed dramatically and improved. David has a very gentle and empathic way about him, yet managed to challenge my habitual way of being and thinking. As a result of our time together I now practice his "way of being" and I truly find that I am getting far better results in all of the relationships that I encounter. My inner chatter is under control, most of the time, and I am learning to pause and push away harmful thinking . It's surprising how habitual thinking can do so much damage and how, once you really focus on what comes into your mind you start to realise that you can be bigger than your random thoughts. So David thank you for putting me on a better pathway. Looking forward to sharing another journey with the Auspicium family!
    Rowena Wild

  • The course I attended with David Key was marvellous, every moment being filled with joy and laughter. David has a unique talent to teach, unlocking the full potential of every person he encounters. His course opened up an infinite number of ways for me to get the life I want, right now, today, and in the future. It made me realise that thought is fluid and that I can mould it the way I want to suit my day. I would highly recommend this course to anyone in search of a new professional career or for those who simply want a happier life. Thank You!
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  • It took me about 5 years of 'dithering' before committing, and in that time I attended several introductory days from various training providers. David's accessible style and the unforced flow of the day is what persuaded me to choose his company. David provides a training model that helps you become your best self - as a student, as a practitioner, as a person. By 'best', I mean more open, less fearful, more confident, less judgemental - whether you attend the course to make a change personally or professionally, to build on existing success, or with no idea where it might go, simply because you are interested (that was me!) you will be impressed at what you are able to achieve with David's expert guidance showing you how to use your curiosity as a pathway to growth. In the first week following the course, I dealt with several potentially difficult situations both at work and home, coming from a changed perspective - resulting in no conflict, calmer colleagues, less stressed family. And this without actively using any techniques; the biggest change has been inside my own headspace. I can't wait to do the next course. Now that I know, unequivocally, the benefits to be had, I wish I had come down off the fence years ago! Added bonus, a bunch of fabulous new friends. And a final thought about cost; some of you reading this will be struggling to justify spending a chunk of hard earned money "just" for yourself. Well, I will be using these tools every day for the rest of my life - pennies a day investment! I am SO worth it. And so are you!
    Sue Bee

  • I first met David at an evening business club a couple of years ago. During his presentation something “clicked” with me and I felt compelled to further my understanding of NLP. I attended the Auspicium free trial day. My earlier feelings were confirmed. This guy knows what he’s talking about and has a passion for helping people. I duly signed up for the NLP and Hypnotherapy practitioner course. What a week. All in the class left in such high spirits with a very different outlook on life. Following on I have attended the NLP and Hypnotherapy Master Practitioner course. Again excellent. There was something about the Hypnotherapy element of the course that I loved so on to the Hypnotherapy Trainers Training (another absolutely brilliant week). All the courses that I have attended have been very well organised, have a great team of trainers and support volunteers. The documentation is well put together and the exercises are all structured to push yourself to show you have a grasp of the given subject. I now have a fantastic group of new friends who I have a deep link with. We still meet up when we can to catch up on what we are all doing. As of March this year I have been participating in the Auspicium Freedom Project. This is a yearlong “conversation” about the 3 Principles – Mind, Thought and Consciousness. It took me a while to “get” it but now just by “doing nothing” I find myself doing more with better results and no stress. There are no models or techniques to learn. We all have the Principles inside us. We just need to be woken up to how to use them. It’s a great journey that will take the rest of my life. David is a superb trainer and fully deserves all the praise he receives.
    Phillip Warris

  • Before going on David’s Practitioner course, I thought I knew what I wanted, where I was headed and how I was going to get it. All I wanted an additional skill to add to my portfolio. I thought my life was in reasonably good order, nothing that needed fixing. I can sum up my experience of working with David in two words: life-changing. Instead of just learning a new skill, David encouraged us to apply his teaching, our learning, to ourselves. In a very safe environment, I gradually dropped the barriers I had painstakingly built up over a long time. This change happened very quickly and I continued growing as a person, studying 2 more courses with David and joining him on the Freedom project. Why David? He is disarmingly honest, genuine and engaging. He has a very broad knowledge of human behaviour and passes his knowledge on with grace. As a result of working with David, I have changed, and my life has changed. In myself I am very happy and contented person. My marriage is better and stronger. My business plans have taken a different route - one that is exciting and feels very right for me.
    Valerie